My mother is a tightwad. Growing up it would occasionally drive me crazy. Now, as an adult with my own financial goals and my own set of bills, that I have still been unable to find someone to cover for me, I have adopted some of those same behaviors. Earlier this year, I started planning a trip to NYC for J and I and quickly abandoned it (not forever) because I wasn't mentally prepared to give away so much of our hard earned money. At the same time that I made that decision I'm thinking things like, "You only live once!", "You can't be buried with your money.", and "Carpe Diem!!". Nonetheless, my frugality got the best of me and I chose no at least for now.
A a few weeks ago J returned from a trip to Florida with a friend and while there he decided that we need to get a kayak or canoe. At first I see dollar signs. I don't state any objection but rather ask if he has looked at any or knows the price range. He begins his research and I begin to think. Inevitably, J convinces himself we don't need a kayak and I react completely opposite to how I expect to act. I take us to a couple of shops to just "look" at kayaks for fun knowing that if Justin really wanted one but was just refraining from getting one to save money that seeing them would bring him back around to purchasing one. That day we picked our kayak and accessories and I went back two days later and purchased it. The whole purchase cost us a sizable amount of money. My response, both internal and external, was pure excitement and joy! I kept looking for the stress of parting with that much money to creep in or the regret to poke its head around the corner but it never did. This was truly remarkable for me.
Its nice to know that my ingrained frugality can take a break when it truly deserves to...another quality of my mother. The USS Lily Pad embarked on its maiden voyage two weeks ago and will hopefully have many more fruitful trips over the years!